“For some reason, I have this image in my mind of a car with a ton of dents, because I think most long-term relationships—it’s a dented car. We have this fantasy that a relationship is gonna be showroom clean, and that relationship doesn’t have any dents. It’s easy to be intimate with somebody before there’s dents in the car. But when there’s some big dents in the car, intimacy can become really difficult because you’re maybe still holding on to that resentment of ‘They do this thing that drives me fucking crazy’ or ‘I’ve got this secret that I don’t want them to know, because I’m afraid I’m going to be judged by.’ And that makes that intimacy difficult, I think, because there’s this feeling that there’s a little bit of falseness.”

—Paul Gilmartin, talking with “Listener Lily,” on The Mental Illness Happy Hour (episode 70)

About Walter Biggins

Walter Biggins is a writer based in Atlanta, GA. He is the co-author (with Daniel Couch) of Bob Mould's Workbook (Bloomsbury, 2017). His work has been published in The Quarterly Conversation,, Bookslut (RIP), The Comics Journal, The Baseball Chronicle, and other periodicals. Twitter: @walter_biggins.
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